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22-04-2024 01:55 PM - edited 22-04-2024 03:48 PM
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Thanks again @PizzaMondo.
Yep, there is a lot of unaddressed trauma which prevents certain people in my family from supporting me. And there is one family member who is actively hostile/unsupportive, and who caused my first experience with suicidal thoughts a few years back (due to rejecting my transition), so there's also that in the mix. Overall, mental illness is not easy to discuss with my family. No worries about the length of your reply, I appreciate it. Doesn't feel like a rant at all. (I'm really glad you've found that personal progress in your own life, too. Thanks for sharing that.)
Yeah, I'm a bit more cautious of online support nowadays. SANE is one of the few websites where I feel relatively safe to seek mental support. I ignored the bad reviews of The Talk Shop, only to have an awful, humiliating experience with one of their online therapists, followed by awful conduct from their receptionists... So, needless to say, if I see several poor reviews of an online service, I'll generally be a lot more careful than I used to be. Once bitten, and all that.
I know that online support services aren't always seriously bad, and I've just had a run of bad luck. I'm just very cautious. But I'll take all suggestions, honestly.
22-04-2024 02:00 PM
22-04-2024 02:00 PM
Hey @Appleblossom thank you for the support. Even if there are no answers, feeling less alone is valuable, so thank you for that. I tend to be very careful when a mental health organisation has negative reviews, as ignoring those reviews has put me in very mentally dangerous situations before... But I also recognise that I could have a good experience, despite someone else's poor experience. So, I'm open to all suggestions. Thank you for the empathy about complicated mental health histories within a family, too.
22-04-2024 02:08 PM
22-04-2024 02:08 PM
Hey @Dimity, thank you for replying, and hello again. I'm still feeling pretty much the same, but it's nice to have people replying here as I deal with work stress today, on top of all this mental health stuff. No worries about not having any answers, I just appreciate the (digital) company. I'm sorry to hear you don't have much support, similar to me. It really does suck.
Absolutely understand if you don't want to share this (I don't know if it would be a privacy concern somehow), but what tracker app do you find helpful?
22-04-2024 02:18 PM
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22-04-2024 02:19 PM
22-04-2024 02:19 PM
@D1ng0 I use the free version of Daylio. There's a subscription version with more bells and whistles.
Hope work is interesting enough to provide you some positive reinforcement - even if stressful at times.
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22-04-2024 03:01 PM - edited 22-04-2024 03:31 PM
@PizzaMondo Yeah, it does feel really rough. I can't force anyone to support me, and I feel selfish if I emphasise how much I'm struggling, especially because the response I often get is, "you'll be okay"... so it doesn't seem worth having the conversation at all.
Yeah nah, I talk to that family member occasionally, but we're not in close contact. (For reference though, I'm not in close contact with anyone.) The advice I get is from them usually very dismissive and unhelpful, and makes my mental health worse, so that's another situation where I'm usually better off isolated. But my sex change process is finished now, and I'm completely socially transitioned, so there's nothing that this family member can do about that lol
Thank you for the reminder 😊
Yes, I have heard of QLife, I've had mixed experiences with them. I think it's a bit inevitable because the community is so diverse. I usually end up speaking with someone who isn't trans, and doesn't really know what to say to me. I tried their online chat, but it wasn't too helpful, as the advice basically amounted to, "see a therapist," and then we were out of time. So yeah, pretty hit-and-miss. I'm sure it's really helpful for other community members, though. I think I have really bad luck tbh
22-04-2024 03:02 PM
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Cheers @Dimity, will take a look at it and see whether it'd suit me. And thanks for the well-wishes, I hope you're having a good one, too.
22-04-2024 03:40 PM
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