Hi @BP1 , I get what you mean about people just not understanding (sometimes even when they have the best intentions). That's something I've really struggled with and what finally lead me here. I'm going to try and tag others in this because I think it might be if interest (I'm not sorry experienced with this yet, so hopefully I don't mess up and add the wrong people- @Dimity @Appleblossom @MermaidHair @Shaz51 )

One thing I found very recently that helped, was an autobiographical comic published earlier this year by a comic creator I really love, Keezy Young. Keezy has Bipolar 1 and wrote the comic "Sunflowers" about their experiences. I wasn't sure I would relate, seeing I have Bipolar 2, but, man, it blew me away.

I have it to my husband to read and after he put it down he came up and asked "Is that really what it's like?" I replied, "Well, I haven't experienced a manic episode because I have Bipolar 2, but otherwise yeah, pretty much". Then he gave me a big hug. It was like, after all these years, something finally clicked. 

That's not to say he necessarily understands everything fully, and nor would I expect him too, but it definitely helped.